Your Hardest Family Question: My wife is controlling my friendships

Question:

 

I have a friend I don’t see too often, and we’ve drifted apart, but occasionally we’ll get together with other mutual friends. The problem is that he’s said a few things that have offended my wife. I was annoyed with him but, knowing his blunt personality, didn’t think too much of it. Now, though, my wife doesn’t want me to get together with my other friends if he’s going to be there and gets mad at me if I want to. She says I’m not defending her, but when I ask if she wants me to talk to him, she says that there’s no point. I don’t know what to do. She seems to get angry with me for not being angry with him. I just want to let it go. We’re told to forgive everyone and not take offense, but it’s like my wife doesn’t want me to forgive him. I don’t really care about maintaining my friendship with him, but I do like the activities we do with my other friends. What should I do for my wife?

 

Answer:

You may feel your wife is sending you mixed messages about how to handle your friend, but one message is clear: it’s time to pause this relationship with your friend until you and your wife are united. No friendship is worth undoing the marital bond. {Continue reading at Meridian}

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