For years I’ve heard adults complain about how disrespectful teenagers are with a tone that suggests the teenagers should fix their problem. I found myself wondering if it was really totally the teenagers’ problem, and if it was possible for teenagers to fix the culture of disrespect all alone. After many years of helping families fix disrespect problems I can say with certainty that teenagers are not going to be able to conquer their disrespect problem alone. Parent involvement is essential for solving this large-scale disintegration of parent/child bonds.
A mother from England contacted me with this plea, “Help! Today my 15-year-old daughter had a total outburst because I made porridge for her. She made a huge scene over the fact that she doesn’t like it, and she accused me of never listening to her and what she likes or doesn’t like. The hot cereal was what I had to offer.”