Nobody wants to deliberately hurt their children. We don’t sit up at nights thinking, how can I thwart my child’s progress or diminish their self-confidence. No, in fact, we go way out of our way to try and help our children be successful. We want to give them the ability to achieve, a belief in their capacities, a sense that if they try, they can do good things. We hope in every way that what we communicate to them will send messages of confidence and hope.
To do that, we praise our children and think in doing that they will develop a positive self-definition of themselves. “You are so smart.” “Aren’t you just the prettiest little princess?” “You are brilliant! Nobody ever learned that faster than you did.” “You are a winner.”