“Flirting with my honey can be so much fun! It’s been really helpful to me in cultivating my own sexual feelings towards him. I used to hate it when he’d try to flirt with me or be sexual toward me in any way outside the bedroom. But all that has thankfully changed. It has become a frequent joke for me to say, ‘Hey babe, you wanna get lucky?!’ I especially love to say this to him when there is no chance of follow through…just to torment him…like on the way to church or right after we’ve already been intimate.
At first my husband would look at me with this surprised–almost unbelieving–look that said, ‘Are you kidding me? Are you really serious? Now don’t kid me!’ In time his response developed into a simple, ‘Yeah. Sure, I wanna get lucky.’ He got even wiser when he began to say, ‘I already am!’ This playfulness has made our relationship so much fun. It helps me keep my intimate fires flickering throughout the day.”
A Missing Mindset in Marriage
This story is one of my favorites from a client who had discovered the fun in being flirty with her husband. A missing ingredient in many couples’ lovemaking repertoire is a dash of fun and flirty playfulness. It’s almost a mindset you’re wanting to develop in your marriage–to naturally think in fun and flirty ways.